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The Gift of Time

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:05:52 GMT

The Gift of Time

I broke up with a guy years ago over something trivial. When I look back at my life, out of all the relationships I have ever had, he treated me like a king. He put me first and gave me so much. I remember enjoying the attention, but not exactly appreciating him, until a few more relationships--when I wasn't treated with much less--verv.

Soon after we broke up, he entered into a relationship and has been in that relationship for a long time. I had always wondered what it would be like to have stayed with that man.

Over the years, I have learned from unexpected sources, people who didn't even realize I knew him, that this particular man hadn't been all that committed to monogamy. Now I don't know that this isn't something that his relationship has built into it, but I do know this: what I would have expected was monogamy.

My point is, that God has given me the unique perspective of being able to see, after some time, that he could have been cheating on me.

We can pine and wonder about the past, but all things work together for the good, no matter how difficult they seem in the moment and no matter how comfortable they look today.

You may have someone in your life who has been playing on the fence. I think it's time to tell him or her that you can do without the drama. Cut your losses and leave room for someone who truly can devote some time to you and your needs. Alone is better than getting half or a quarter of a person. Trust me on this.

Today's Intention: "I am more than what I have believed in the past about myself. I have a lot to give to the world and to a partner. I'm compassionate, loving, caring, and open to a new and permanent relationship with a human who is my equal. And so it is!"

Building a Sanctuary of Peace

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 19:38:07 GMT

Building a Sanctuary of Peace

Take 2 cups of sugar, 3 cups of flour, and 4 cups of milk. Stir it all together and anything that is that sweet should give you some sense of peace, right? LOL. Oh, I forgot the fattening butter. 2 sticks should be enough to put you over the top.

The truth is, many of us try to find peace in a piece of cake or some ice cream. Some find peace in gambling, drugs, smoking, running, weight lifting, or sex. As you can see, some of these are healthy habits and some aren't.

Building peace doesn't come from finding external ways of satiating your angst, though, whether healthy or not. It takes building a bridge over your life to a permanent sanctuary where you feel completely safe and connected with Spirit God.

We have a connection to a part of our brain that is called the Reptillian brain that is our "fight or flight side" that responds and reacts to fear and hunger and sexual desire like an animal. Then we have a deductive part of our brain that we can use to logically coerce ourselves into many forms of avoidant behavior.

But the only safe way to find peace is to sit in the watcher side of the mind, the neocortex of the brain and begin to compassionately look at your life as a parent would a child, without guilt, without remorse.

This is your sanctuary. From this vantage point of meditation, your mind will automatically lead you to the path of peace and alternative roads to clear your life of anxiety and stress.

My own life had been filled with Post Traumatic Stress and Anxiety for many years. By learning to live outside the parameters of my negative human triggers, I've learned to teach myself a new path--this time to a peaceful walk toward loving myself and others authentically.

Our prayer: "In the light of the future, I want to live a healthier, more productive, more peaceful, loving life. Teach me the ways of meditation, of peace, so that I may find you in the delicate flower, in the calm of the ocean, even in the rush of the pouring rain. Your peace is everywhere. Show me the path to it, and I will follow."

Spontaneous Love

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Wed, 01 Feb 2012 17:27:36 GMT

Spontaneous Love

You've heard of spontaneous healing. I want to introduce a new term: Spontaneous Love. It simply means that if you introduce love into your body instead of any negative alternative (hate, anxiety, jealousy, hurt, pain, unforgiveness), then your body will react with the energy of spontaneous healing.

Science has proven time and time again that people who are at peace and in a loving place, heal almost twice as fast as people who are struggling. Love and Joy bolster the immune system in many ways that science can't explain. But as spiritual believers, we know that the main consequence of loving is healing. So, take out your prescription for all that ails you today and start some spontaneous loving.

I'm going to guarantee change in yourself, change in the people around you, and change in your work environment. The vibrations around respond to your love and all who come into your space will be changed by it, including all of your own bodily cells. So, don't spend another minute today worrying yourself into sickness.

Today's prayer: "Loving Spirit, you know the ways that the world and my job and my brain get in the way of my peace. Help me put aside the past and live in the perfect present, where I find all that I need to be happy and at peace. I know today I am provided for. You said that you have every feather on each bird accounted for. I know you have weighed my needs and provided for me from the riches of your storehouse in heaven. And as a good steward of my life, I'll do what I can to walk in the knowledge of your truth."

A Tugging from the Heart

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 16:31:41 GMT

Tugging from the Heart

I had a friend cry out to me this morning about family pulling him from each limb like he was some kind of Gumby being stretched far beyond his physical, financial and mental boundaries. He clearly was about to break. I felt for him. I've been there, done that.

Creating boundaries is the hardest paradigm to accomplish in life, especially with family members. When you havemore money than a sibling, and they ask like this: "Brother, I don't have the money to pay my rent, and I'm going to get evicted," what do you do?

When your best friend pulls you into an abusive situation with a spouse or a child and leaves you there to fend for yourself, because he/she can't make the right decision and she thinks you can, what do you do?

I've learned from 51 years of life, getting stuck with unpaid debt, strangling triangulation, and unfair guilt, that I wasn't put here on this earth to wrestle with anyone else's problems but my own. The definition of codependency is for a dependent (someone who must lean on another for life) needs to find another to support their existence. If you are that person, you are a codependent. If you want to stay a codependent the rest of your life, have at it. If you don't... read on.

First of all, there are groups.. Coda (codependents anonymous) or a therapist or a life coach can help you figure out how to unhook from unhealthy behavior. But most of all, you must look inside and see, first, what feels right to your heart--NOT WHAT FEELS satiating to the guilt. You learned a long time ago to respond to guilt, and it's time to let go of that response. No dependent finds his or her way by leaning on a codependent. A dependent has to fall and fail and learn to walk on his/her own--the same way a child learns to walk.

Today's prayer: "God, I need some help here. I've been smothering in my desire to help everybody in my life, but me. I'm overweight, struggling with finance, anxious, and sad. Mostly because I can't seem to find the time to help myself. Help me say NO to all the unhealthy codependency in my life, and YES to your nurturing self love! I believe I'm worth my own time and energy. I know you love me. And it is time to begin to start loving myself!"

A Father's Love

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 16:43:21 GMT

A Father's Love.

Yesterday I had the most beautiful experience of seeing pure love in action. After church a man introduced himself to me and asked if I had a moment to speak with him and his 19 year old daughter. I said of course.

The parent wanted to know a little more about what I did. He had been following my blogs on Facebook, though not a friend (which blows me away) and wanted to hear more. So, we chatted.

I watched as the young girl sat quietly, smiling. It was clear she had a struggle that was deep she needed to share. Finally the father came to the real reason for their visit. They had been in a religion for that past 20 years that prohibited any form of homosexuality. Suddenly in her freshman year of college, the young girl had wondered if she were gay, shared the experience with her dad and asked for guidance.

I was first amazed at the courage of the young girl, but then also even more amazed at the bond between the parent and child, so deep and cherished that the father would consider moving from a religion to find a place of comfort and security and truth for his child. It made my heart weep.

My mother sat next to me. She chimed in with some resounding wisdom about raising a gay child, which made me love her even more. When I think of unconditional love, I can't imagine someone honoring me more than she does. She would never want me to be sad or unhappy, as was the case with this young father.

If you are in a situation where religion or society frowns on the very person that you are or choose to be, it is time to rise up and move from condemnation!

God created you perfectly, my friend. You may need to discover who you are and bring your own morality to your decision, but your desire to be with a man or a woman is not for anyone to choose but you. I'm thankful that this parent was compassionate. Most, however, are not.

So, I pray today: "God, in a world where everyone seems to have a strong opinion about the rights of others, give us the strength to stand up and be counted. To love and be loved with purity and grace--to never let anyone, whether rule or law stands in the way--choose for us our path to loving. Be the light that shines within us and the truth shall set all mankind free!"

Corrugated Love

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 15:56:36 GMT

Corrugated Love

Everyone has their ideal for love. We tend to move toward it as in a dream, never looking back. The little girl folds pictures of her wedding day into an album. A young man neatly tucks away images of baby and momma in his heart like nesting file folders on a laptop. Partners think of the day they'll have that home together tucked away in the woods with the 1.5 animals.

We are humans meant to come together. No matter how calloused we become about relationships, there is a part of our souls that long for the happy ending, to be swept away by love in its greatest form.

Is it wrong? I'm asked, time and time again, to feel this way. Absolutely not. My question, though, is have you allowed your vision of love to be corrugated (contracted into wrinkles and folds)? Is it time to bring the old vision out and take a good look at it in the realistic light of today.

Is your dream a possibility for you now? Are your fantasies about love realistic? I those are fair questions to ask yourself.

Most of us haven't seen a model relationship in our lives that mirrors the "Leave it to Beaver" relationship of the Cleavers, yet somewhere in our subconsciouses, we think it exists. Is it fair to allow the illusions of television and movies to obstruct the vision or our lives?

I have lived in relationship where we never fought. Then one day the relationship just ended. I've had relationships where we fought a lot and the relationship still ended. But I'm not ready to stop dreaming that a partnership exists in between-- where there is a perfect balance of love and respect, truth and communication.

The most important aspect though of this ironed out, uncorrugated dream is that two people have to be on the same path together, perhaps a spiritual path, that meets in the middle, ready to move ahead even if there is a bump or two in the road. When that exists, a real relationship will occur. I'm assured of that.

Our Affirmation: "Spirit God, allow my heart to be open to love today, of all forms. Let me dream again. Let me take out that old fantasy, dust it off, and rewrite it with confidence that you will bring about the perfect person for me. I know you are the giver of all gifts. You said, "Ask and you shall receive." Together, everyone who is reading this and who is asking, we are all doing so with one voice. And so it is!"

Love Control

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 15:05:34 GMT

Love Control

As we get older, let's face it, our libido changes. For women it may increase, for men, most times it decreases because of hormones. But I've been thinking about how nice it is to be looking/waiting for love without raging hormones.

I don't want to go out at night searching for someone that only fulfills partial needs. I want to meet someone who completes me.

As we get older, if you are still single, think of how wonderful it is to be single now. You get the chance to use all of your past knowledge about relationships--what is right and wrong for you personally--what works in a live-in situation, what doesn't. You can look beyond first glances at someone and really see that someone you may never have fallen for at 20, could possibly be your soulmate at 50. That's exciting news!

You are more vibrant and wonderful now than you ever were when you were younger. With every day you get wiser and more beautiful. Wisdom is gorgeous, my friend. And when the right person finds you, you'll see inside his/her soul and know it is right. You'll dance in the delight of friendship meeting love, meeting communication, meeting a symbiotic desire to spend time together.

It won't be something you have to force or manipulate. Love will simply be. That's how you will know you have arrived.

"Spirit God, help me see myself as the wonderful, beautiful creature you have created me. I know that somewhere my mate is looking for me, as I am for him/her. Let our souls meet in prayer now, to prepare each other for the inevitable. Let me live in the peace of knowing that if I see the opportunity to act on this feeling of love, that I will without trepidation follow my heart to love."

Synchronicity

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Thu, 26 Jan 2012 15:56:48 GMT

Synchronicity

I watched a show last night called "Touch" that seemed to be about a child figuring out how to mathematically solve what spiritual people call synchronicity. It intrigued me. His notebooks were filled with small numbers and calculations, which seemed to figure what would happen next in life. Though he was mute, he tried to get his father to help him stop the problems that were about to happen.

It reminded me of that book, "The Bible Code," which poses that each letter fo the Hebrew alphabet is a number that when processed as letters brings about certain predictions in the old Testament.

We are all intrigued by the network of events that happen around us that seem to weave us together like a afghan, even though as we live in the center of it, we feel like we are in chaos sometimes.

This is why meditation is so important, because the ancient process teaches the mind to live above the chaos and become the observer. The problem with most people and meditation is they say, "I can't shut my mind off."

No one said you had to. You have to learn to walk on the fragile bridge above your mind to observe God's miracles and also the synchronicities of life. This is where Peace is.

"Today is the day to begin to observe my life with a compassionate, watchful eye. I'll be aware of Spirit's breath calling me and the strong arms that hold me from the path that will cause me pain. Lead me into that kind of peace, Oh Lord. And I will Go!"

The Intimidation Factor

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Wed, 25 Jan 2012 17:19:32 GMT

The Intimidation Factor

A couple days ago a guy told me that I intimidated him. I was astounded, to say the least. I asked him why and what I had done to make him think that. He didn't answer.

So, being the spiritual sojourner I am, I asked a few friends what, if anything, I may be wearing or giving off that might look or seem intimidating.

To my surprise all their answers were positive attributes.

Now why would anybody be intimidated by positive attributes? My advice to the individual was: "Don't let anyone intimidate you. You are made in the image of God, by the hands of the divine. You are perfect just as you are. Be a bright light."

Marianne Williamson says, "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

The Magic Triangle

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 15:43:40 GMT

The Magic Triangle

Once there was a boy, a young child who went for a long walk in the woods. He tripped and fell over some twigs and landed face down in a rabbit hole. The sun was shining brightly into the hole, and he could see treasures within. But his arms were too short to reach anything within sight. The treasure that peeked his interest most was a silver triangle that glistened in the sunlight. He wanted it so badly that he ran all the way home and found his father's shovel, so that he could dig beneath the surface to fetch the glistening treasure.

He returned within seconds, it seemed, but he found no rabbit hole. He couldn't even find the place where he had fallen. Everything in the wooded forest seemed to blend together. Frustrated, he spent most of the afternoon looking, but still found nothing.

He went home empty-handed and dismayed. "Why didn't I just dig in the dirt with my hands while I had the chance?" he muttered to himself, "then I would have my treasure." But, alas, he went home without the magic triangle.

Though the boy was young, the journey and fall impacted him greatly. He went home and fashioned a triangle out of tin foil and placed it on his bureau to remind him to never miss an opportunity like that again. Every day when he would wake up, the first thing he would see was that triangle. This reminded him to grab all of life, every bit of it, the good, the bad, the treasures, and the ideas to reach for treasures--and make something of them; even though it may have meant digging with his bare hands.

This young boy turned out to be one of life's greatest men. Not only did he become a millionaire, but he was an inventor and a sage all because he turned a failure into a lesson.

There is more than one way of looking at everything that happens in your life. The lesson of the triangle is: Try to find three different perspectives to your problem. One from your point of view. One from an objective point of view. And one from God's point of view.

My List

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:45:04 GMT

My List...

Have you ever made a list like this:
(This truly is my list, just in case some wonderful person out there is looking or someone has a friend in mind. lol)

I'm searching for a person with a compassionate heart. An eye for humor. An interest in self care, both body and mind. I'd like to be with a person who likes what he does for work and is not a workaholic. One who is free of mostof his demons from the past. One who is financially stable. Ready for a monogamous relationship. Who likes to have fun. Did I mention I need this to be a human, not a figment of my imagination, and not a dog, because I already have one? And most important, I need a person in my life who is on a spiritual path...

Okay... How many people have made lists like this before and waited and waited for that perfect person to come along? If I don't get a resounding YES in the universe, someone is lying.

The problem with these kinds of lists is they are one-sided. Your list should also include what you are willing to do to attract someone like this. Or are you all of the things that you want to attract, because you know, LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE!

So, if you are interested in attracting someone wonderful, become wonderful. If you are interested in attracting someone rich, learn to be responsible with your money. If you want someone who is responsible with your heart, take care of your own heart in a big way. Don't let someone tromp on it and expect the universe to give you Prince Charming soon after.

Make 2 lists, all the things you want in a human being (make the human thing clear to God. A friend of mine got a dog once because her list wasn't so specific. Sorry, Shirley.) Then make a list of things that you can do to be ready for that soul-person to appear in your life. If like attracts like, then you be ready for that wonderful person to appear.

And if you are already in a relationship, keep the change happening. Change in you, often results in change in the other person. As you grow, either the other person grows, or he/she shows complete resistance, and you see that the relationship needs to be released for you to be the best you can be. There is nothing wrong with that. There is no judgement when someone doesn't want to grow. Just move on. Your growth on this earth is the most important aspect of being human. Remember that.

The Web of God's Love Reaches Deep

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Sun, 22 Jan 2012 16:02:47 GMT

The Web of God's Love Reaches Far and Deep

22 years ago I was engaged to a woman in NYC. We went to a Pentecostal church in Greenwich Village. We were both singers and decided to become part of the music ministry. At that time, the music minister asked to take me to lunch to get to know me better. He asked me a bunch of personal questions, one of them was about God and homosexuality. I shared with him that though I was getting married, I believed that God loved everyone the same and that, in my mind, it wasn't a sin. That answer got us kicked out of that church, basically.

Almost 18 years later, a music minister in Nashville, where I live now, contacted me and wanted to have lunch. It was the same man from NYC. He wanted to apologize for his words 18 years before.

20 years ago a woman came into my vocal studio and opened her mouth to sing, but we ended up talking half her vocal lesson. She was a hoot and ended up being a good friend as well as a student. As life does, it took her into another path, and we lost touch for about 18 years. Facebook put her picture up on my "do you know this person" list. I clicked on it, and we've been meaning to have lunch for a month. Yesterday was her birthday. My mom and I and a friend went to a movie. We ended up at a movie theater we never go to and who did we bump into... You guessed it. What a birthday surprise.

My 2 best friends from college moved to NYC with me. One decided to move to DC, while the other stayed and ended up passing away with the HIV virus. As I tried desperately to get in touch with the other best friend, the wife of that friend kept intercepting the calls and finally told me not to call back. I was devastated. 25 years later, after his divorce, I found out that he never knew of those phone calls and we lost in touch because of his wife's fear of her friendship with me.

I tell you these stories because I spent many years wondering, sometimes crying, asking why... what happened?... what did I do to cause the negative happenings of my life? When all the while God had a plan. It wasn't my plan. It was a big plan that involved changing lives, changing hearts, and changing paths.

If you are in the midst of a situation in which you just simply can't understand why you are having to leave someone you love, or grieving a broken relationship, know this with me today that there is a plan--A GOD PLAN--that is so much deeper, bigger and wider than you can conceive.

And if you can let go of your desired end and leave your love in the hands of the Creator, and keep praying... your heart will heal. Who knows, some day you'll wake up to your dream having a happy ending.

Feelings, Nothing More than Feelings

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 18:07:23 GMT

Feelings... Nothing More than Feelings...

I used to have this Hispanic Vocal client when I lived in NYC who sang the song "Feelings." I can remember it like it was yesterday. I was like the "Idol" judges trying not to laugh while I was coaching him. But he was adorable, I have to admit, as he attempted to interpret an English song with a very Hispanic accent.

But this, as you probably figured out by now, is not my point. Feelings are so very temporal. They come and go like the wind. One day you're mad as hell at someone, and the next you love them like nothing happened. One day you think you will never change to the new Facebook, then after you do, you decide it is really kewl. I mean really. Do we ever truly have a feeling that sticks?

The answer is yes, of course. Some of our deeply rooted feelings are not ephemeral. They are tied to our core belief system. These feelings stay put, for the most part. It's the fleeting feelings that I want to talk about today. The ones that change.

When something comes in your life that causes you to have a strong fleeting feeling. And you know it is not based on a core belief. IF it is based on an action or an emotion, we have to treat it differently than we treat our core beliefs. I'm not saying throw away your emotion. I'm saying, realize that you will get over it and don't waste a friendship with words you can't take back.

Yesterday I imagined one of these friend's sons calling me and telling me that his father had cancer and was in the hospital. As angry as I am at him. My only internal response was to go to his side. That says to me that my feeling is fleeting. I'll get over the anger. So, I tell myself that whatever happens, don't say something that will dishonor the friendship, because someday I'll want to reclaim the love and caring we once had. Maybe I'm not ready today, but someday.

"God help me understand my feelings. Help me deal with them as you would, with compassion and understanding."

I Wish You Enough... HUH?

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 14:55:24 GMT

I Wish You Enough? HUH?

When someone prays a prayer that wishes me enough, I stop them mid-sentence and say, "Thank you for your concern, but I will continue this prayer privately."

If God says, "Ask and you shall receive. Seek and you shall find," why ask for enough, when you can ask for abundance and share the extra?

I used to pray that my bills would be covered. Every month, without fail, my bills would be covered, and there would be pennies left over. Now I pray for my bank account to flow with abundance so that I can help others, have all that I need, and more. Not to be selfish, but to let Spirit give to his child what God promised: to open the storehouse of heaven and pour out a blessing!

Don't settle for cracker crumbs, when God wishes for you to have caviar and cream cheese on gourmet toast points!

The Heart of a Human

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 16:59:05 GMT

The Heart of a Human

The Heart pumps. The Heart is sustained by oxygenated blood. It's rhythm is generally as regular as clockwork. Fear and Excitement make it beat harder. Rest and Peace make the heart beat slower. When we are born it begins to beat on its own. When we die, the heart stops. No one knows exactly why.

The heart is an intricate organ, that without it, nothing would work in our body. And as in life, I believe, it is an important metaphor.

Without spiritual heart: compassion, love, joy for living, desire for truth, verve to share our gifts, we truly have nothing. We might as well be dead. Our humanness would be worthless.

The heart of a human is more than the ticking of an innocuous time bomb that may or may not stop at any time. The heart beats to the proud rhythm of Spirit's love. This cadence is so inviting it draws the world in to dance with us--to create good with us--to live in harmony with us.

Heart energy is forgiveness and love in many spiritual practices. We are taught that when we don't forgive it doesn't effect the other person, it makes our own heart lose vital energy. Because our heart is made to love. It beats in the rhythm of Spirit smiling.

"Today I touch my heart and feel the golden embers of love burning in my soul. Its heat not only warms me, but brings compassion and great joy to all around me. I know I am made of love, because my heart beats to the rhythm of God!."

Where Is Love?

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 15:23:14 GMT

Where Is Love?

So many times we've heard, "you are looking for love in all the wrong places," yet what are the right places?

First of all, when you are made of the very particles that are love, how can you miss love? God made you in its image. God is love. So you, too, are made of love. Look in the mirror for love. You are the beginning and end of your day. You must treat yourself with kindness and compassion.

Secondly, like attracts like in the universe. It's law. So, if you recognize your goodness and foster it, you will also attract the very same thing that you are. If you are compassionate, you will attract compassionate beings. If you are generous, generosity will follow you to your home.

Third, Love is a peaceful state of mind. It doesn't lust for gold, other's belongings, other's bodies. Love is still and at rest and at peace with the universe. So, it is our indigenous duty to discover the peace that created us and exists all around us through the practice of meditation and quiet or prayer. This is how you bring the humanness that you are to the spiritual--daily, as an offering.

"I know that I don't understand my human self. I want to be a better person, a better friend, a better lover. Help me make those parts of my humanity that bend toward earth, lift and spread toward the sky--toward the light of Your Beingness. I know then, that I will bloom into the beauty that You intended!" Love you, my friends.

Friends

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 15:12:01 GMT

What Would We Do Without Friends?

I'm thinking---big, gaping hole in my life.

Friends are where lovers stop, family can't fill, and enemies won't tread. They are the warm cover when you are sick. They are the cream-filling in your doughnut. They are the whiskey in your coffee. They are the punchline to your joke. They are the sour-tasting medicine you don't want to take, but choke down because you know it's good for you. They are the walk in the woods on a warm summer day--quiet and free. They are God on this earth. Cherish them. Call an old friend today and let him/her know you care.

What Is Worth More Than Your Word?

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 16:39:32 GMT

What Is Worth More than your Word?

We think of this statement way too often concerning what we tell others. But what about what we promise ourselves? Have you ever thought about that?

When you make a promise to yourself over and over again and break it, do you think it is any less damaging to yourself than if someone else breaks a promise to you?

I would say it is more damaging, actually. Because the broken promise not only effects your self esteem, but it teaches your subconscious that you are not a doer of your word and that your not important.

Did you know that the majority of morbid obesity is in people who are caregivers? They learn at an early age that self esteem is won by giving to others. They use up all their energy before there is ever enough for themselves. When it comes time to nourish themselves, the only energy that is left is for eating. So, the rewarding begins.

This can happen in your life with many different kinds of habits. But that doesn't mean that today isn't the day you can say to yourself, "I'm every bit as important as work, as my family, as my friends!" And take back the power you need to control the habits you have formed from not keeping your word to yourself.

Your word for today: "I take back my power I have given away to others and realize that if I don't take care of myself first, there will be no self left to take care of them. My life, my body, my happiness is important to me."

Go Figure

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 17:24:15 GMT

There is more than enough of everything in the world. So, why do we want for what isn't ours?

I figure that in the storehouses of heaven there is enough gold, love, joy, cars for everyone in the world. The mystery is how to open the storehouses of heaven and let the giving begin, right?

The bible says that God is waiting to give us of His abundance. So, it must be something we are doing that is stymying the process. Are you truly open to receive from heaven? Ask yourself. Also, have you released all that is no longer serving you, so that there is room for God to fill your coffers?

"I release and let go of all things that no longer serve me. I am open and willing for Spirit God to bring into my life abundance, joy, prosperity, love, romance, truth, wisdom, and the perfect work!" Let this be your New Years resolution.

Fascinating Rhythm

Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 15:39:20 GMT

Fascinating Rhythm

Everything about the earth operates at a rhythm: the speed of light, the metabolism of our bodies, the vibrations of all our cells, even solid matter is moving slowly. Is it any wonder that we are so prone to tapping our feet at the sound of a catchy tune? We are made of music and filled with vibrational energy.

So, when it comes to harmonics, is it also any wonder why when something comes into your world that doesn't resonate with your body, you feel it? Do you remember the last time a person walked into the room and you just shivered, because you knew something was wrong with him or her, something negative? Or conversely, when you met someone who just merged with every cell in your body, and you knew, without a doubt, this would be a friend for life?

These harmonics and dissonances are signs from God/the Universe to help you know if you are on the right path. You can tell when you are in harmony with life, when you are at peace: your heart is beating slowly, your mind is free, and there is a indescribable warmth in your belly. Let these signs and the fascinating rhythms of life help you move forward toward a healthier, happier life!