Attachment Theory - in East Terms to Understand
When you feel like something is driving you other than your own intellect or deep-seatted beliefs; if you feel that an animalistic desire or fear draws you to choices; or if you are replaying history in every relationship, you may be operating on neuropathic memories of the past called attachments.
Each of us have recorded brain memories that begin at birth, relating to how much we were held, loved, abused, basically--attached. Most of us stay unaware of the impact these attachments have on our lives until we become enmeshed in messy relationships that seem to keep recurring, or find ourselves embroiled in too much alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, sex, or a multitude of other compulsive thoughts or disorders.
For example: you find yourself in love with a man who has clearly mistreated you, lied to you, or cheated, but you can't seem to stop loving him. You take a closer look and you have had a history of relationships that are similar in nature. The men are usually older, dark, call you "baby girl" and loves you as passionately as he abuses. Your dad was a similar man to your mother. He treated you with lots of love, but also was abusive when he drank. You find yourself drinking whenever you're stressed.
Attachment disorder is when you recreate a scenario in your life from your past to try and heal it. The unfortunate reaction in life, is that creating relationships according to attachments generally never work out unless both people know they are working through this subconscious trauma, which is rarely the case.
Clinical hypnotherapy has been known to help reframe the past and create new neuro- pathways for those suffering from this problem. Let me know if I can help.
Each of us have recorded brain memories that begin at birth, relating to how much we were held, loved, abused, basically--attached. Most of us stay unaware of the impact these attachments have on our lives until we become enmeshed in messy relationships that seem to keep recurring, or find ourselves embroiled in too much alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, sex, or a multitude of other compulsive thoughts or disorders.
For example: you find yourself in love with a man who has clearly mistreated you, lied to you, or cheated, but you can't seem to stop loving him. You take a closer look and you have had a history of relationships that are similar in nature. The men are usually older, dark, call you "baby girl" and loves you as passionately as he abuses. Your dad was a similar man to your mother. He treated you with lots of love, but also was abusive when he drank. You find yourself drinking whenever you're stressed.
Attachment disorder is when you recreate a scenario in your life from your past to try and heal it. The unfortunate reaction in life, is that creating relationships according to attachments generally never work out unless both people know they are working through this subconscious trauma, which is rarely the case.
Clinical hypnotherapy has been known to help reframe the past and create new neuro- pathways for those suffering from this problem. Let me know if I can help.
Posted by Your Gay Friend's Guide Blog at 10/20/2011 8:22 AM 
Categories: advice, love, Mental Health Relationships:Hypnotherapy, Psychology for an Authentic Self, Relationship Help from a Gay Male Friend
Tags: attachment theory psychology love rescue relationships
Categories: advice, love, Mental Health Relationships:Hypnotherapy, Psychology for an Authentic Self, Relationship Help from a Gay Male Friend
Tags: attachment theory psychology love rescue relationships
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