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BLOG.BOSEBASTIAN.COM: I miss my boyfriend! WAAAAAAHHHH

I miss my boyfriend! WAAAAAAHHHH

My partner and I have spent a very hectic couple weeks with him working 6 am to 10 pm trying to get a handle on work and catch up. He is exhausted constantly. I really feel for him. But I have to tell you, I feel for me too. I miss him--his presence in my life, his kindness, his fun, his laughter. He has become this robot that needs to work all the damn time.

What to do?

Well, first off... Get a life, Bo! You have to take back your power and take this time to rebuild some of your relationships that you let wane during the time of the initial romance. Find some friends you haven't talked to, that you haven't spent time with, that you haven't gone to the movies with, and do that. Today!

I took a walk yesterday around Centennial Park in Nashville with my best friend. We used to rollerblade the park about 2-3 times a week about 3 years ago. Then afterwards we would go to our favorite restaurant, Rhumba, and order the same thing every time (medium rare tuna sandwich with French fried green beans), 'cause it was so damn good nothing else could beat it. All the waiters knew us. It was our thing.

Well, we did that yesterday. I can't tell you how many times we kept saying, "I can't believe it has been so long since we spent this kind of time together." Of course, we walked the park now instead of roller blading, since both of us have aged 3 years and can barely walk, let alone blade. lol Seriously, I don't think I could have made it around that park on roller blades without a back contusion. You got to love old age.

My point: Love is wonderful. Great relationships are splendid. But we can't build our lives around just one person and expect to not feel fragile and the unconsciously place the burden of our happiness on the one person who deserves our support.

Our power exists in building a life with lots of fabulousity around us and wonderful and supportive people. If you don't spend time with them, I promise they are not going to be there in the capacity they had been before. I know that real friends stay around, but intimacy takes a certain amount of constancy that can only happen when you are nurturing relationship with a consistency.

I love my partner, but I also love the other parts of my life. This weekend I took the time to re-explore those parts. Though I missed him down to the bone, I had a wonderful time with some of my dearest friends.