This person used to be me. It was as if I was the observer of my happiness and never really felt it, because I was too busy worrying when it was going to dissipate.  Then I would turn back to the miserable wretch I was intended to be. Yikes! Who taught me what way of believing? 

Well, I think religion had something to do with it. "I was born a sinner. I'm not deserving of God's love." I know I heard those quotes growing up. Then, of course, you add to that, all the people who have left your life and proclaimed you were terrible and not worthy of their love--now you have a mental state that screams out for Divine Intervention.

I teach meditation and yoga as part of my work. The process of meditation and hypnosis is a place where the brain goes to "watch or observe" the body and mind. You have a choice when you go to this place to be a judge or a compassionate observer. In this meditative place, the compassionate observer notices when the mind drifts off into a dream and out of the present, when the mind rejects the present situation and projects itself into a dream place. This dream place can be (usually is) a bad scene that has been played over and over again in the brain due to certain triggers and stimuli. 

The first course of action to staying happy is recognizing when you are not in the present and forcing yourself back into the present moment. Once you are back in the now, you must nurture yourself and teach yourself that you are protected and safe.

There are ways to be better, do better, feel better. Each one of these things are within your grasp.

If you have already gotten to the place where you have discovered that the present if sufficient, then when you get to a place that is happy, you must realize that happiness is a state of being, not a situation. So, it isn't created by what is happening around you, but by your reaction to what is happening. So, ultimately, you have control over it.

And the most important thing I've learned over the years is this: ALL relationships have an ending (work, friendships, family, love, etc.). Someone must eventually die, go away, or leave. If you start a relationship off understanding this concept completely, you will NEVER take one day for granted. You will love completely. You will believe joy and happiness is a choice--and choose it!  

And You will believe that happiness is yours by virtue of whose you are, not what you do or say or how you act. 

xoxo