an excerpt from "Your Gay Friend's Guide to Understanding Men"

In a Bar?

When a man is lonely and horny he goes to a bar. I honestly don’t know too many men who have met their prospective healthy mates in a bar. It has been known to happen, but not often. Mind that word healthy. You can probably meet an alcohol-dependent man, who wants you to support him, at a bar.

So, what do horny men want with women at bars?

Actually probably the same thing you want, at that moment: some intimacy, some touching, someone to make you feel attractive, someone to satisfy your basic sexual needs.

Yes. But do you wonder why these men never turn out to be trustworthy and relationship oriented?

Women are categorically different than a man who is looking to satisfy a basic sexual need. Typically, men are a little less choosy about who they end up with for sex. I hope this doesn’t hurt your feelings, but it’s the truth.

Men look for their fantasies in sexual pursuits. But they look for their mothers, mostly, in a mate. They may hate their mothers, I know, but desire the qualities of a mother (perhaps not their mother, but what they imagine as the ideal mother) in a woman they’ll marry. So, in the back of their minds they think, She is perfect for this moment (for sex, fun, and physical intimacy), but I can’t see her raising my child. I met her in a bar, for God’s sake!

H